“There is a deeper voice of God, which you must learn to hear and obey in the second half of life. It will sound like the voice of risk, of trust, of surrender, of soul, of common sense, of destiny, of love, of an intimate stranger, of your deepest self. You need to discriminate the voices of the Loyal Soldier from the voice of the Holy Spirit. God never leads by guilt or shame!
The deeper faith journey begins when you start to listen to and follow God’s inner voice, and not just shame-based early conditioning. God leads by loving the soul at ever-deeper levels, not by shaming at superficial levels.”
“If you need to know in advance that everything will “work out” before you jump in, you’ll never jump into anything. Yet “jumping in” is life’s greatest excitement, its grandest adventure. Don’t deny yourself that. Just go for it. Trust that Life will bring you benefit no matter what happens.”
“If you knew your potential to feel good, you would ask no one to be different so that you can feel good. You would free yourself of all of that cumbersome impossibility of needing to control the world, or control your mate, or control your child. You are the only one who creates your reality. For no one else can think for you, no one else can do it. It is only you, every bit of it you.”
“When you think you deserve, expect, or need something specific to happen, you are setting yourself up for constant unhappiness and a final inability to enjoy or at least allow what is actually going to happen. After a while, you find yourself resisting almost everything at some level to try to remain in total control. I think this pattern is entirely common and widespread.
Only when you give up your preoccupation with control will you be able to move with the divine flow. Without all the inner voices of resistance and control, it is amazing how much you can get done and not get tired. Giving up control is a school of union, compassion, and understanding. It is also a school for the final letting go that we call death. Practice giving up control early in life. You will be much happier and much closer to the truth, to the moment, and to God—none of which can be experienced when you presume you can be in control anyway.”
“If we cannot trust that we have an eternal identity in God, then we are burdened with creating our own personal importance day after day. Either we are made by another or we must be self-made—or we live in the hall of mirrors of everybody else’s image of us. Then we vie with one another for a zero-sum dignity and importance. We become lost in comparison, envy, competition, and codependency.
Your importance is given and bestowed in this universe, which is the unbreakable covenant between you and your Creator. God declares you objectively important. As Isaiah says, “God has branded you on the palms of his hands” (49:16). The problem of negative self-image that we try so hard to solve is already completely solved, and most people sadly do not know this.”