“You are confronted again and again with choice of letting God speak or letting your wounded self cry out. Although there has to be a place where you can allow your wounded part to get the attention it needs, your vocation is to speak from the place in you where God dwells.
When you let your wounded self express itself in the form of apologies, arguments, or complaints – through which it can not truly be heard – you will only grow frustrated and increasingly feel rejected. Claim the God, in you, and let God speak words of forgiveness, healing, and reconciliation, words calling to obedience, radical commitment, and service.
People will constantly try to hook your wounded self. They will point out your needs, your character defects, your limitations and sins. That is how they attempt to dismiss what God, through you, is saying to them. Your temptation, arising from your great insecurity and doubt, is to begin believing their definition of you. But God has called you to speak the Word to the world and to speak it fearlessly. While acknowledging your woundedness, do not let go of the truth that lives in you and demands to be spoken.
It will take a great deal of time and patience to distinguish between the voice of the wounded self and the voice of God, but as you grow more and more faithful to your vocation, this will be become easier. Do not despair; you are being prepared for a mission that will be hard but fruitful.”
~ Henri J.M. Nouwen, The Inner Voice of Love