“To start attracting love and respect, we must stop searching for love and respect, and begin cultivating it within ourselves.”
~ Ralph Smart
How do we cultivate love and respect within ourselves? We stop searching for validation and start living from the heart. We take action based only on what the heart wants. We speak only the words our heart speaks.
Does that sound difficult? It takes practice if you’re used to living in the mind. Start simple.
Respect the communication between you and your body. Eat only when you’re actually hungry. Sleep only when you’re actually tired. Laugh or cry when you really want to. Don’t stifle your emotions. Take full, deep breathes throughout the day. When you have to go to the bathroom, don’t wait until you’ve come to a good spot in your work day. Just go.
Don’t be a victim of circumstance. Do what your heart wants to do when you want to do it, even if that means doing it alone. You aren’t hurting anyone else’s feelings except your own when you do something you don’t really want to be doing. Sometimes that might mean skipping a group gathering or “letting down” a friend. A real friend will respect your choices.
These are just a few simple ways I’ve found to begin cultivating love and respect in yourself. If you’re shifting from mind living to heart living, give them a try and watch what happens. Be easy on yourself. Keep it simple. And remember to give yourself credit for your choices too! You have to water the plants for them grow. Maybe that’s why they call it “growing up?” 🙂